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Are you first date material?

Happy Sunday Everyone! How are we doing?


I really wanted to give a shout out to all my people who responded to my instagram question on my story about first date expectations! You guys were cracking me up, especially the one that said, “don’t be a dick or weirdo”, so there you have it fellas, bottom line just be cool, calm, and collected.


Fellas here are some other pointers for you if you’re thinking of asking her out:


  1. Be a gentleman- regardless of what you’ve been told. Most girls are suckers for chivalry. I’m talking opening doors, pulling out chairs, and walking on the traffic side of the sidewalk type.

  2. Pick up the tab- so I know it’s really hard to decide if this is a good move these days due to a lot of females wanting to pay for their own way, and that’s cool and all, but there are still so many girls who appreciate the gesture when a guy picks up the tab (myself included). It’s not because we “just want a free meal” (although that is a nice perk) it just says a lot about your character, and whether or not you will be compatible in the future as far as “gender roles“ and let’s be real chivalry are concerned. I have actually been told by some guys that they don’t like paying for girls meals because it makes them feel used and abused when the girl just ghosts them after one meal. I think that’s just a part of dating, so if you’re not up for that happening, don’t date. Also, I think it speaks volumes about who you are because unwillingness to pick up the tab just makes you look stingy/cheap. I always bring my own money on dates just in case, but if you end up not picking up the tab, you will not get a second date, and that’s on God. I was just raised in a home where that is the man‘s role, and my daddy always picks up the tab when we go out to eat and not because he has to, but because he wants to, so for me, as I’m sure with a lot of my single ladies, it’s about traditional gender roles and chivalry.

  3. To kiss or not to kiss- okay so I got mixed reviews on this one, me personally, I do not like a guy who wants to kiss me on the first date. It seems to eager, thirsty. I just realllly appreciate a guy who can practice self-control and save that for a second date. Now, if a guy kissed me on the first date and I really felt like we hit it off, he would probs still get a second date. I had friends who said they would be down for a kiss on the first date hands down if the vibe was right. So if you’re feeling it, I say go for it, and for the love of the God, just go for it, don’t make an announcement proclaiming “I’m going to kiss you now” it’s always better to just surprise her and just go with it on the moment. I know you know what I’m talking about, don’t interject and ruin the moment by making an announcement, just do it!

  4. Plan it out- make a plan. It shows you actually took the time to think about it and show her a good time.

  5. Dont be a dick or weirdo- figured I should elaborate on this one a little, because I know there’s just some guys out there that can’t help it, And probs don’t even realize how much a of a douche canoe they are, tbh. I think it’s a safe bet that if you are an ass hole by nature you probs wont hear from her again, or if you come on too strong physically, that just shows exactly what you’re after and girls looking for long term relationships will not vibe well with being a booty call. Dont be rude either, like for example, if a girl tells you she doesn’t drink, don’t tell the waiter that youll take those two seats by the bar. (yes, this has happened to me before; and I have been sober for 9 years and it’s not my Favorite thing to do, ya know sit and stare at all the bottles on the wall)

  6. Just be yourself- I think the most important thing to remember is to show up as yourself. Don’t try to pretend to be someone else in the beginning bc the truth always comes out in the wash. If you don’t get a second date after showing up as yourself, then you‘ll know it wasn’t meant to be. This applies for the ladies as well!

Girls I didn’t have many guys respond but the ones that did said they appreciated laughter, sincerity, understanding of them being awkward on first dates and then I had one who said “expect to be fully romanticized“ bc he was a sucker for going all out! (Which I’m sure any female can appreciate)



alrighty that’s all for now my friends! Cheerio!



until next time,



xoxo


SLG

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