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The importance of your tribe && a new vibe

Hey all!

Well, I brought the beau to meet my family yesterday, and we were riding back to his house afterwards, and I was trying to figure out what I should write about. You see I've gotten to this place, at least for now, where it's hard for me to write about relationship type stuff, not just because I've met someone, but honestly because I really have come to a place where I feel at peace with myself, and I am happy with how the past has brought me to where I am now. Which is why today I want to talk about three things 1) the importance of family, 2) the importance of loving yourself first, and 3) transitioning this blog to cover a wider range of topics.


The importance of family


I want to discuss the importance of family, in relation to dating, and just in general. I can literally count on one hand the number of guys I have brought around my family, and there's a distinct reason for that. My family is really important to me because we are all really close and talk everyday, and we have been through a lot together. In fact, my siblings, my dad and I have a family group chat that we chat in everyday, and the conversation never ends, so naturally I want whoever I am with to be able to settle in with my family as if they were their own.


On another note, My family can be a lot, When I say A LOT, I don't mean that in a bad way, I just mean we are big in number, big in heart, and big in personality, so of course, that potentially could be a lot to take in. I mean you can ask Benjamin, yesterday I came up to him at least 19538902 times and asked "are you okay?" not because I didn't think he can handle himself, I just didn't want him to get overwhelmed with the high volume of different personalities that were being thrown at him. I was worried mainly because I do really see this going somewhere and wanted to make sure that nothing was going to jeopardize that. I have brought a couple of guys home to the family in the past and it didn't go over too well, I mean maybe it did for them, but there was always something unsettling to me about it in the past. Actually, I distinctly remember one time, I brought this guy to my sister's college graduation, and we all went to hibachi afterwards, and the whole time, I felt like something was off, and I just remember being in the car with him afterwards, and thinking to myself "there is no way I can date him anymore, how am I supposed to tell him I didn't think it went well?", and when I did finally muster up the courage to break the news to him, he screamed at the top of his lungs "You're breaking up with me? Why the FUCK would you introduce me to all of your family and then break up with me?", but see that's the thing, family is HUGE, and maybe it's a good idea to introduce the family before you put a title on it, I don't know, or maybe you should be certain you would actually want this person in your life for the long haul before you bring them around your people, and that includes friends who you consider as family as well... Basically your whole tribe, because if you can't see the person you're dating sitting around in a room hanging out and getting along with the people that you love most in all the world, then is it even worth wasting another minute of your time?


The importance of loving yourself


I had a friend send me an inbox on instagram saying that he was really happy for me, happy that I had found peace for myself. Trust me, I still have my days when I struggle with self-love and neurotic thoughts, but they are few and far between. I think the important thing for me to remember is to always stand up for myself, and do all the things I need to do to maintain a good emotional and mental state, and not just compromise the things I believe in, so I'm not losing myself while I'm blending my life with someone else's because it feels good in the beginning, but when things start to settle down, you don't want to look back and have a resentment with your partner over losing a piece of yourself that was important to you. Like this blog, it's important to me, even if I don't talk about dating anymore, it's one of the high lights of my week, and I always look forward to coming here and writing all about my feelings. It's important to find someone who supports those dreams that you have, so you don't lose track of who you are, and all the things that you want to do with your life. Also, don't forget to take care of yourself, whatever that looks like for you, be sure to take time for yourself so that you can be your best self in life, and bring 100% to your relationship. Having inner peace is good not only for you, but for the people around you as well.


Transitioning

The last topic I want to cover is transitioning this blog. In the next couple of weeks I will be purchasing a new domain name and giving the blog a little makeover. I have talked about this before, and I think the timing now just makes sense. Don't worry, I will still talk about past dating experiences, but I also want to have the opportunity to share about other life topics so that I'm not always sitting around and trying to figure out what I should write about next. I really do enjoy coming here and opening my mind and my heart to you guys once a week. It really has been a bright spot over the course of this WEIRD year we've been going through, so thanks for following me faithfully.


Anyways that's all I've got for now. I'm gonna go to the gym with my two favorite boys and smash some mexican food afterwards. I hope you all have a wonderful end to your weekend. <3


Until next time,


xoxo


SLG.




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