I have made the mistake so many times of taking so many guys at face value. They outplay their words and I allow (key phrase here) I ALLOW them to reap the fringe benefits of my love, care and affection.
Setting healthy boundaries for yourself in a relationship is hard because most of the time we go into a romantic encounter craving love and attention from someone that we have been longing for; and some of us have a harder time than others avoiding potentially damaging situations due to a history of trauma, neglect, abuse or just flat out low self-esteem... but loving yourself and accepting nothing less than what you deserve is so important.
“Water seeks it’s own level”, something another friend told me once, meaning “we accept the love we think we deserve”. When he tells you one thing and does another— his words are NOT matching his actions and nobody wants to be chasing after someone who isn’t even capable of following through. MOVE ON. Love is action, pursuing someone’s heart is a choice. When they’re not doing what it takes to pursue you, walk away. You deserve more than crumbs, you deserve a four course meal. Oh and I’ll harp on this again, and ALWAYS, lol, listen to your gut !!! I often times ignore mine, only to find out it was really trying to help me see the truth in a situation! We are a lot smarter than we give ourselves credit for!
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Do you have any advice on boundaries in dating? Or in relationships in general? drop some comments down below, let me know your thoughts and share with us! :)
until next time,
xoxo
SLG
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