I was introduced to this incredibly charming and handsome guy by someone that I babysit for. It's been years since she introduced me to him, but our dating pattern sucked, and I would like to talk about it because it's definitely something that any woman should avoid.
I'm trying to decide what I should call him for anonymity purposes because his name also started with a C, and I've already given that letter away (I'm kind of picking up on a pattern with these Cs here. LOL-- JK to anyone whose name might start with a C that's reading this ;) )
I will refer to him as Yo-Yo, because that is exactly what he was in my life. A freaking yo-yo. Over a 5 year time span he would take me on a couple of dates, talk to me a whole bunch, I guess expecting to get some? and then when he realized his attempts were not working...He would yo-yo right out of my life just as quickly as he had yo-yo'd in it. Every time he would come back around he would say things like "oh it's going to be different this time", "we should really try to make this work" and the worst because he was a dad and he had kids, "I know my boys would really love you", which I never officially met over the 5 years that he yo-yo'd.
Now that I've discussed his not so present and irrelevant part that he played in my life. Let me discuss my part, and what I would definitely do differently today. So the vulnerable, naive side of me that wanted to BELIEVE him when he told me "things would be different this time" was the part of me that ALLOWED him to come back into my good graces every time. BC of my willingness too let him back in my life as if nothing had happened at all... He being the AMAZING person that he is took FULL advantage of this naivety. There are times when I look back on these yo-yoing encounters and think to myself "how could you be so dumb", but when someone is deceiving you with charming words and dashing good looks (my kryptonite) then I'm bound to fall for it every time.
I was really good at giving him whatever it was he felt he needed at that time is life and once he felt fulfilled in that area, he would leave again. It doesn't even really have to be about sex. It can honestly be something as simple as an ego-stroke/boost in the form of a pep talk. For this guy, it seems he always wanted more && he wasn't willing to communicate with me about that, and honestly I don't think I was ever "his person", because if I was, he would have never left in the first place.
I guess by going through this experience with Yo-Yo. (5 times) I finally learned that if he doesn't want to stay in your life, then cut the damn yo-yo string and let that mother-f*cker drop like a damn hot potato. In other words, NO NO Mr. YO-YO. Anyone have experience with this kind of guy? I'm just sorry he didn't stick around long enough to experience all the good parts of me, but as I always say with these losers who don't recognize a good thing when they got it-- HIS LOSS.
Signing off for now, Until next time! :)
xoxo
The Shelf Girl
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